Off the Record: The Confession of the "Third" (Part I)
Meet "H". The Origin, The Filter & The Geometry of Desire
We sat down with H.
You already know her from our previous stories: that electric blend of visual innocence and expert perversion that transformed our bed into a temple. She is the architect of our first expansion, the woman who took “Elle’s” hand and led her across the threshold.
But today, the setting is different. There are no silk sheets, no oils, no complicit shadows of a hotel room. There is a recorder, a bottle of wine, and an imperative need to understand.
We wanted to dissect the mind of the woman who enters our intimacy. Who is she? How does she see us? How does she judge us?
What follows is the transcript, extended and uncensored, of a conversation that oscillated between an operational manual and a visceral confession.
THE ORIGIN: “MEN ALWAYS HURT ME... AND FOR FREE”
S3X+: Let’s start at the beginning, even if it feels like a cliché. H, what was the trigger? How did it all start?
H: I’m going to be very honest—if something is too intense later, you can delete it, but I’m the type who lets it all out. It wasn’t a glamorous decision at first. I was coming out of a very painful, traumatic breakup. An ex-boyfriend who had been repeatedly unfaithful, to the point of getting the other girl pregnant. It was a brutal blow to my self-esteem and my view of relationships.
I was suffering so much that I had a moment of dark lucidity. I said to myself: “Fuck, man, men are always hurting me... and they do it for free.”
In that moment of rage and pragmatism, I thought: Why not use my weapons as a woman? To earn money for me, by me, and stop being the emotional victim to become the one in control. I had an acquaintance in the north of Spain who told me I would make a lot of money, and asked why I didn’t try it. And one day, with fear but determination, I said: “Well, why not?”
S3X+: And how was that first time?
H: Strange. At first, you feel bad. The sociocultural prejudices weigh on you, the taboo, the idea of “what am I doing.” But then you see the result. In one week, I had earned what some people take five months to earn working from sunrise to sunset. Then the guilt dissolves into pragmatism and you say: “It doesn’t seem that bad.”
I looked for where the real money was and went to Ibiza. That became my base. I realized I could use that money to build something: buy apartments, invest, have a freedom that an office job would never give me. Back then you earned much more, people spent without thinking; now the market has changed, but it’s still a world where cash flow is brutal. And once you get into that wheel, it’s hard to get off.
S3X+: Do you feel like you have two parallel lives? Does your family know who H really is?
H: More than identities, they are two completely watertight lives. To this day, depending on who asks, I don’t even give my real name. It’s a matter of survival and security. I don’t want a client to have access to my vulnerable moment, to my family. There are very damaging people who use that information against you; in fact, it already happened to me and I had to file a police report. So I protect my privacy with tooth and nail.
My family knows nothing. And honestly, if my mother suspected, I don’t think she would ever speak to me again. She is a very religious woman. For her, it would be an insurmountable moral blow; she would never accept it. They think I work as a personal assistant for rich people, organizing events, trips... Since I live abroad most of the time and my daily life when I see them is “normal”—I walk my little dog, I don’t drive a Ferrari nor am I involved in drugs—they have no reason to suspect. I maintain the facade of the “normal girl” to protect them and to protect myself.
THE PLAYBOOK: HOW TO SPOT A PROFESSIONAL (AND AVOID TRAFFICKING)
S3X+: This is crucial for our readers. We are terrified of the idea of being with someone forced or a victim of trafficking. How can a couple identify if the girl is free and independent or if there is something shady behind her?
H: It’s harder than it seems; even men who have been consuming paid sex for years sometimes don’t realize. But there are signals, clear “red flags” if you know where to look.
The key is in the first point of contact, usually by phone or message. When there are mafias or forced girls, they usually have phone operators behind them. You ask: “Do you do all services?” or “Do you do this specific thing?” and they respond with an automatic and overly compliant script: “Yes, yes, all included, baby, come, we do whatever you want, all included.” That excess of “yes to everything,” that generic “baby” language, and the lack of questions on their part is the ultimate red flag.
An independent girl, who owns her body and her business, filters much more. I, for example, before saying yes, give you an interrogation: I ask nationality, age, exactly what service you are looking for. If a girl sets limits or asks you questions before saying “come,” it’s a good sign. It means she has the power to refuse.
S3X+: And the hygiene issue? You mentioned that is an infallible filter.
H: Exactly. No mafia operator is going to tell you: “It depends on your hygiene.” I do say it. I make it clear that I will perform certain services (like natural oral sex for example) strictly depending on the client’s hygiene at that moment.
I can’t guarantee a service without seeing what I find. How am I going to promise oral sex without a condom if at three in the morning in Ibiza I find a drunk guy high on everything who hasn’t showered in two days? That is unviable for me. If the girl gives explanations, sets conditions, and values her own physical integrity before your money, she is real. If she is a robot of “yes” at any price, run.
S3X+: Does it happen often that men contact you pretending to be couples?
H: A lot! Random men write to me saying: “We want to meet you, we are a couple.” And I know it’s a lie by the second message. I know by the type of questions they ask. When it’s a lie, they get very morbid with irrelevant details, asking things like: “And what are you going to wear to dinner? Will you wear red lingerie?”
A real couple, looking for an experience, is much more pragmatic and direct. They tell you: “Look, my wife is going to wear this dress, we would like you to be elegant so as not to stand out in the restaurant.” They get to the point. The “fake couple” guy is just looking to feed his wanker fantasy via WhatsApp. It’s pure mental masturbation.
THE GEOMETRY OF THE THREESOME: ENERGY MANAGEMENT & JEALOUSY
S3X+: Let’s talk about the dynamic in the room. How does your chip change when you enter with a couple versus a solo guy?
H: With a couple, everything is much more delicate. You have to have emotional intelligence and a brutal capacity for adaptation. Solo men are sometimes very basic, they don’t catch onto anything, they go for what they go for. But in a couple... you have masculine and feminine energy together watching every move. They notice everything from minute one. If there is no feeling, if there is tension, they smell it.
The biggest risk is energy management. If I go alone with a couple, both spotlights are on me. I have to be a juggler: manage very well how much I give to him and how much I give to her. If I give too much energy to the husband and the wife feels, even for a second, displaced, ignored, or jealous... we’ve messed it up. The magic is over and the session is over.
S3X+: And if there are four of us? If we bring another professional girl to make a foursome?
H: There the dynamic changes radically. When there are two girls, deep intimacy is diluted a bit. It becomes “party mode,” a more general open mind vibe. There isn’t as much emotional connection anymore, it’s more “we’re all here partying together to see what happens.” It’s fun, yes, but it’s less intense on a connection level.
But be careful with the energies between the girls. If I go with a colleague, there has to be real chemistry between us. It shows a lot if we don’t like each other or if we are just “working.” And watch out, something curious happened to me with this:
Once, in a foursome, the wife did not get jealous of me... but with the other girl! I was so focused on the wife, telling her how beautiful she was, caressing her, giving her attention, that she felt safe and desired with me. But my colleague was more “hetero,” she went straight for the husband. And the wife, seeing that I “ignored” the husband to be with her, relaxed with me, but was suspicious of the other one who was all over her husband. It is fascinating how jealousy works: it is not the action, it is the attention.
THE BISEXUAL FACTOR: THE TASTE TEST
S3X+: You mentioned something that was key for us in the selection: real bisexuality.
H: It is fundamental, it is the golden rule. I, in my agency, would never send a couple a girl who isn’t genuinely bisexual. It shows too much. If the girl doesn’t really like women, the service is going to be shit. You can be a very good actress, but there are things the body cannot fake.
It shows in the touch. A girl who doesn’t like women touches you with “hesitation,” avoids deep contact, pretends to do but isn’t present. And that, in a bed, kills the vibe totally. You, as a woman, feel uncomfortable, you think “I know she doesn’t like me, she’s doing it out of obligation,” and you close up.
S3X+: How do we distinguish if she is real bisexual or “marketing bisexual”?
H: I think one can tell in many ways but for me one that is very hard to fake is oral sex. There is no possible lie there. A girl who likes women knows how to eat a pussy, knows how to enjoy the smell, the taste, the texture. One who doesn’t will try to “comply”: she will pass her tongue over the top, avoid the clitoris, make quick movements to finish soon... I notice it instantly.
However, I have a red line for hygiene: in the service, I don’t do that with everyone for safety, not for lack of desire.
S3X+: But when there is real passion... that transcends safety.
H: Of course! I remember a couple in Ibiza, wonderful people, super clean. The woman came like five times with me. It was spectacular. When I see that the woman enjoys it so much, that she surrenders, I genuinely enjoy it. It excites me to see them enjoy.
Or that other couple... She was Russian, he was German. He had been a strip club owner, you could see on his face that he had been a player, a whoremonger. But she... she was innocent, it was her first time with a woman. She was a 38-year-old stunner, gorgeous. Seeing how she took my hand, with a mixture of shyness and aggression from contained desire, how she squeezed my finger and called me “darling” while she moaned... that turns me on so much. Seeing a woman discover herself thanks to me is one of the few things that is priceless in this job.
The Visual Proof
We know exactly what is happening to you right now. You have read her words. You have felt the sharp intelligence of her filters and the warmth of her approach. The intellectual seduction is complete. But the mind can only do so much work before the body demands its turn.
Do you want to see the aesthetic that captivated us?
> UNLOCK THE VISUAL: Meet H on Instagram
(Note: This link is only for readers to explore H’s aesthetic)